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Navigating A Modern Medical Practice

August 6, 2013 by procourtesy

Navigating A Modern Medical Practice
The contemporary practice of medicine has taken a major shift for physicians and patients alike. The reasons for this are multifaceted:  managed care, expenses, insurance, technology…the list goes on and on. Certainly, physicians and hospitals are finding it challenging and feeling a lack of control as they adjust to the rapid changes in the practice of medicine. And so, patients must make adjustments as well, in order to feel they have control over their health care

Historically, progress has two sides to it. We usually have great benefits, but we often lose something that is unique to the old way of doing things. Medicine is no different. The solo practice where a patient and the “ole family doctor” have a close one–on-one relationship is becoming rare.  However, this does not mean a patient cannot have a meaningful and effective relationship with their physician in a large group and get excellent medical care. It does mean that the patient may have to shift their thinking and adjust their approach. Patients who take more responsibility for their health and learn to work the system and their physician’s practice effectively can reduce the poor communication that is a common complaint today.

Some tips to navigate a modern medical system are:

  • Be proactive before you get sick, if possible.
  • Know the routine of your physician’s office.
  • Try to see the same physician at every appointment to enhance continuity of care  and to establish a relationship.
  • Learn the names of the medical staff you deal with, in person, and when you place a call.
  • Learn when to place a call to the office. Avoid Monday mornings at 9 am, before lunch and minutes before the office closes.
  • Ask for, and keep copies of your own health record and that of your family members.
  • Plan ahead for prescription refills. Don’t wait until week-ends or the last minute.
  • Learn how to navigate the telephone system by asking for the extension number of the nurse and how to get a “live” person.
  • Understand their protocol for emergencies.
  • Find out what hospital your physician goes to? Many medical groups split the hospitals for efficiency. Your physician may not  make rounds or have privileges in your preferred hospital.
  • Know the people who are providing your care.  If the staff or physician does not let you know who they are, introduce yourself and ask their name and title/ position.
  • Turn off your cell phone! Taking calls during your appointment is rude and disruptive.
  • Understand your physician’s protocol for receiving test results. Some offices only call patients with negative test results. If  in doubt about the expectations or if you are anxious about a test results, call.
  • Call ahead and see if your physician is running behind if timely appointments are a concern. Ask again when you arrive and check periodically if your wait is getting lengthy.
  • Be familiar with the privacy guidelines and be sure to document the family members who are privy to your medical information.
  • Consider taking a family member or trusted friend to your appointments. If you are elderly or have serious medical issues another person can act as an advocate and help prevent errors in information transmission.
  • Take notes or ask if you can record the conversation for other family members.
  • Note when making an appointment if it is essential to arrive 15 minutes ahead of your appointment time to fill out paper work.
  • Understand that courtesy is infectious on all sides and very important. Make sure you are considerate. If you encounter rudeness from a staff member or physician, respond kindly. It will often diffuse the behavior. We all have a bad day, but if it is one individual, and the behavior is persistent, let the physician know. They can’t fix a problem if they don’t know about it.
  • Change practices if the personalities and attitudes of a particular office are something you can’t live with.  Be sure to let the office know why you left.
  • Document serious glitches. For instance, if you call multiple times and no one returns your calls, let management know. Your time is valuable and waiting for long periods of time without a response can hold up progress.

Sooner or later we all become consumers of the medical system, even physicians. Staying informed and up to date will help with the frustrations that plague the modern practice of medicine. Dr. Welby, as we knew him, may be passé, but there are many fine caregivers who have replaced him. On the surface, their style, accompanied by advanced technology may make things seem very different, but the ultimate goal of most physicians is to care for people and make them better.

Filed Under: medical manners Tagged With: contemporary medical etiquette, etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, medical etiquette, medical manners, patient responsibility

Are You A Real Health Care Professional?

July 19, 2013 by procourtesy

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Are You a Real Health care Professional?
The healthcare arena today, has workers with many different levels of education. However, regardless of the letters after your name, there are certain skills that everyone should have in order to be perceived as a “professional” health care worker. While the technical skills are necessary to deliver competent care to a patient, the soft skills are the skills that set you apart. Not developing those skills can make you less effective as a caregiver and co-worker and tarnish the title, “professional.”

Patients assume you know how to do your job in the clinical sense, but it is how you deliver that care that makes all of the difference in their perception of the care they receive.

Take a step back and ask yourself some questions about how you conduct yourself when caring for patients and working with others.

  • Am I giving my patients my undivided attention immediately upon seeing them?
  • Do I introduce myself and state my position with every new patient encounter?
  • Do I shake hands with the patient and their family members?
  • Do I give good eye contact when speaking and listening to a patient? Can I note the color of their eyes?
  • Do I connect with the patient personally before starting to chart on the computer?
  • Do I look at the patient when I ask a question and return to the keyboard to enter data?
  • Am I respectful by addressing patients formally, especially older patients?
  • What message does my body language convey? Do I have my hand on the door knob and one foot out the door before I close the conversation with the patient?
  • Am I well-groomed from top to bottom? Do I have on clean shoes and a pressed uniform?
  • Do I chew gum in public?
  • Am I sensitive to the needs of my co-workers? Do I offer help before being asked?
  • Do I manage up my co-workers and the physicians?
  • Do I pull rank on team members?
  • Do I recognize the value of everyone on the team?

Don’t just let the letters behind your name define you as a professional. If you answered no to many of these questions it may be time to review some professional courtesy skills to improve the perception others have of you as a “professional” and to become a genuine professional.

Filed Under: medical manners Tagged With: diplomacy, healthcare professionals, medical etiquette, medical manners, patient care, patient communication, Professional Courtesy, professional nurses, social skills

The Importance of a Patient Advocate

April 21, 2013 by procourtesy

The Importance of a Patient Advocate

While dealing with my late husband’s illness and hospitalizations I soon realized the importance of taking on the role of his “patient advocate.” During several hospitalizations for a surgery, a head injury, that put him the ICU after a fall, and other ongoing care until he died, I felt the need, and was able to be his voice and protector. Even though, much of the time during his illness, he was able to make decisions and ask the appropriate questions, I too, could step in and ask, observe and trouble shoot. The fact that he was a physician and I was a nurse, didn’t hurt. However, having a medical background is not essential to be an effective patient advocate for your friends and family members.

When people are ill, in the hospital, or in a crisis situation, their ability to evaluate what is going on around them may be compromised. If they are seriously injured, coming out of anesthesia, on pain medication, bedridden or just feeling lousy, they may not have the energy or those critical thinking skills required to make informed decisions. That’s where a personal patient advocate can help tremendously.

I assumed that role again, on a recent vacation with good friends. One of my friends was injured from a fall at the airport curb as we were getting ready to leave for home. The stool that she stepped onto as she was getting out of the cab slipped as she put weight on it and she fell face and head first smacking the concrete curb. To say the least, a very scary situation for everyone involved. As we got her up and I looked at her, she was bleeding from a laceration to her left temple. A wheel chair was summoned, medics called and before we knew it, we were on our way to the University of California, San Diego Trauma Center, Hillcrest instead of going home.

She had not lost consciousness and had no confusion (worrisome signs for a head injury), but she was on blood thinners; a risk when you have an injury and are bleeding. It was, indeed, appropriate for her to be evaluated by a physician to make sure she was not bleeding inside her head. Remember actress, Natasha Richardson? She died two days after a head injury on a ski slope from a brain bleed that went undetected because she thought she was okay and didn’t have it checked out.

As we arrived at the trauma unit, my friend was whisked away into a trauma room where things happen pretty quickly with lots of people working on you at the same time…it was a well oiled machine. I was sent to a waiting area and was told that they would come and get me when they got her evaluated and some tests done. Fortunately for us, as close friends, I knew much of her medical history, what medications she was on and could have answered important questions if she couldn’t. She too, is a nurse and was able to do some of her own advocating. However, we were in a city that was not our home, dealing with a medical system and people we did not know. We were at the mercy, so to speak, of those taking care of her. And trusting them is part of the deal in this kind of situation.

Not too much time had passed after she had been assessed and had some tests when I was invited back to sit with her in the trauma room while we waited for those test results. At that point we learned that they wanted to admit her to be able to observe her overnight and so they could do another C.T. of her head, later in the day, to make sure that there wasn’t a slow bleed in her brain.

While in the waiting area I was able to call her husband, a physician, and tell him what had happened and keep him apprised throughout the day. When the test results came in we got her husband on the phone so the physician could talk to him directly and her husband could ask any questions of concern that he might have. This is “professional courtesy” in the medical business, but I would not hesitate to ask a physician to speak with anyone close to a patient who might not be there physically.

The staff at U.C.S.D. couldn’t have been nicer. They were able to get her a private room so I could stay with her through the night. They commandeered a lounge chair from another floor that turned into a cot so I could sleep in something other than a straight chair. I was very grateful and I think my friend was happy to have me close by. And she would have done the same for me.

As her advocate, I made sure that I got the names of everyone we encountered, what their role was in dealing with her. Getting names of those taking care of you or your family and friends is important. In crisis situations, it is nice to have a name to refer back to. Healthcare workers should always introduce themselves to the patient and family, but sometimes, that step is missed, especially in an emergency situation.

So, here are some guidelines for anyone who is assisting with family and friends in a medical setting:

  • If people do not introduce themselves to you, politely ask, “please tell me your name and what do you do here?”

  • Be another set of ears for the patient. Listen to the information given and ask questions if the patient is unable to ask for themselves or if they have forgotten something.

  • Take notes. Ask for clarification of medical terms in lay language.

  • Inquire as to when physicians might be making rounds so you can speak with them directly. Ask if you can make an appointment to meet with them while they are in the hospital.

  • While traveling with friends, have an idea of any health risks they may have and share yours.

  • Everyone should carry a brief medical history in their wallet or in their phone, that contains a list of medications, pertinent current and past medical information, allergies and contact numbers of friends and family members (ICE, in case of emergency)

  • If family members or friends are hospitalized, staying with them through the night is a huge comfort for them, but also, in these times of short staffing, you can be a great help in doing some of the small things that a patient needs.

  • When medication is dispensed, the patient and/or the advocate should always ask what the medication is and why it is being given, before taking it. Med errors do happen and another check is never a bad idea.

  • If someone you are with is injured in an emergency situation, stay as calm as possible. Take in the entire situation and get the names and contact information of those who assisted.

  • Keep track of the injured persons valuables and personal items.

  • Let medical people involved know who you are and your relationship to the patient. But do stay out-of-the-way of the medical people, especially in an emergency situation and let them do their job.

  • Do ask when you will be able to see the patient and what number to call if you have questions. Most special units have a direct line that family members can call to speak with someone in the unit and get an update.

  • Be polite, but if you feel the need to assert yourself do it in  a respectful way. You will get better results than if you are angry or accusatory.

  • Check the I.D. bracelet of the patient to make sure the information on it is correct. In emergency and trauma units a fictitious name and patient I.D. number and date of birth may be assigned to a patient due to the fact that many people arrive without any identification. The patient’s real name with be added later.

  • If tests are done, it is okay to ask when you might get the results. Also, don’t be afraid to ask again. Nurses get busy and getting timely test results can sometimes get lost in the shuffle.

  • Do ask about comfort issues, like when they can eat,have something to drink, get up, wash up, brush their teeth, etc.

  • Upon dismissal, be sure to ask questions on what may be an issue after the patient leaves the hospital. Go over discharge information with the discharge nurse and get details about future appointments… who makes them. Ask about medications and where you can pick them up. And lastly, what should you do if a problem arises after dismissal.

Filed Under: medical manners Tagged With: emergencies, health care courtesy, hospitalizations, Hospitals, illness away from home, medical etiquette, patient advocates, patient care, Professional Courtesy

Parkview Regional Medical Center…a true gift.

August 21, 2012 by procourtesy

A couple of weeks ago, I had the pleasure of getting another tour of the new Parkview Regional Medical Center; a facility I consider to be a tremendous gift to the entire region.

As I approached the campus and saw the large “Parkview” sign I couldn’t help but be reminded of my long association with this organization. It’s the place where I had one of my very first jobs out of high school working as a nurse’s aide (now called nursing assistants.)  It is the place I had my first job after graduating from nurse’s training as a staff nurse on Pediatrics. And it’s also the place where I met my husband and where I delivered our daughter.

My late husband also had a long association with Parkview; a physician on staff at Parkview for many, many years. He had been president of the medical staff, on the board of directors and was involved in many other aspects of the organization during his long medical career. It was certainly a major part of his professional life and our personal life together. It’s also the place where he received excellent care during his long illness before he died. I was touched during my tour, to bump into one the physical therapists who had taken such good care of him during one of his long hospitalizations. She had been a particular favorite of his and mine. I remember her coming to our home to visit us after he had been released to share a glass of wine and sit by our pool…a lovely memory for me.

On my tour I also realized how much things have changed over the years, for the better. The delightful young woman giving me the tour was pointing out, with enthusiasm, all of the new, state of the art features of this facility. For instance, the gift shop has the typical items you might give a patient during a hospital stay, but it also had other gifts that were related to and promoting a healthy life style. This is a big change from my day when cigarettes were sold in the gift shop and patients could smoke in their rooms and staff members could smoke in break rooms and in the cafeteria. Today, the entire campus is smoke free. Parkview is committed to wellness in life style and contributes a great deal to the community with education and services.

There is a large chapel on the second floor that is a beautiful place where services for all faiths are conducted; a change from the days when Parkview was known as a Methodist hospital. In addition, there is an interfaith prayer room that is available for people to go who feel the need for quiet and restoration. It contains books and resources representing all faiths that visitors can read and use. There is even a small wailing wall there.  I found it to be a very peaceful place.

I could go on and on…Everywhere you turned there is evidence of the attention to detail that went into building this new medical center that will provide the best care in the best way to patients and their families. And I like to think it’s a pretty good place to work too.

This medical center is indeed, a gift to our entire region…a place where you can get the latest and best care medicine has to offer. I am often saddened when I hear people complain and distrust medical expansion. If medicine isn’t changing and expanding I think that it is a signal that a facility isn’t keeping up.

As I continue to do work for and with the leadership at Parkview, I feel glad and proud to be part of such an exciting time at Parkview and in our community.

(Here is a photo of me with some of the leadership at the Parkview Ortho Hospital at the end of some training in “professional courtesy.”)

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: community outreach, healthcare modern healthcare, medical etiquette, modern medicine, Parkview, state of the art healthcare

My Top Courtesy Tips for Healthcare Workers

August 17, 2012 by procourtesy

The medical market is very competitive today. Make sure your office staff is practicing good manners along with good medicine. Here are my top 20 tips for a more polite staff.

1. Send thank you notes to new patients and referring physicians for choosing your practice. Handwritten thank you notes are never out of style and are a mark of distinction…they say you took the time to show your appreciation. Always add a personal line or two to a preprinted message.

2. In the business world, respond to your work E-mails within 24 hours or with an auto responder message.

3. Acknowledge that you received an E-mail even if it does not require much of a response.

4. Title your E-mails in the subject line.

5. Don’t send other people’s e-mail addresses when forwarding or sending info without their permission.  Use the BCC line when sending e-mail to multiple recipients.

6. If you are crafting a response before the other person is done speaking, you are not listening fully to what they have to say.” Pause before responding.

7. Always excuse yourself before leaving a patient in the exam room, on the telephone, or in any conversation. We call this “taking your leave.”

8. Never return rudeness with rudeness.

9. Smiling comes through in the tone of your voice on the telephone. Over 70% of the message is conveyed in the sound of your voice.

10. Smile! It takes more facial muscles to frown than to smile.

11. Pause for a moment before answering the telephone. This will allow you to shift gears and focus on the caller.

12. Sitting down and making eye contact while interviewing patients leaves a more favorable impression than standing and you are perceived to spend more time with the patient.

13. Eye contact should be made 40-60% of the time in conversation. Less than that suggests you’re not paying attention… more than 60 % makes people feel uncomfortable.

14. Acknowledge the special events in your patient’s lives with a note. Send sympathy notes when patients or their family members die.

15. What Not to Wear in the workplace…crocs, flip-flops, cleavage; on the top or the bottom and no bare midriff.

16. Avoid “tramptastic” skirt lengths.  More than 1 -2 “above the knee is too short for work.

17.“Imagine yourself in the patient’s position… how would you feel?”

18.“Create a friendly atmosphere, but avoid a party atmosphere in your office.”

19.“Never let a patient hear you complain.”

20.“Avoid using superlatives such as, “the doctor never” does something. Better to say, “doctor prefers ,“  this leaves room for the exception to a rule.”

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: Compassion in healthcare, couresy, courtesy in healthcare, courtesy tips for nurses, etiquette, medical etiquette, office courtesy, Professional Courtesy

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