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Medical Manners…the Power of Nice

October 20, 2016 by procourtesy

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Medical Manners…the Power of Nice

Patients forming an opinion of your practice are doing so in a matter of seconds. And some of the latest research on first impressions, suggest that it may even be within the blink of an eye. Regardless of the length of time, first impressions are powerful and very difficult to reverse. So, if a patient has formed a bad opinion of you and your staff, during the first point of contact, you have your work cut out for you in changing that negative opinion.

Patients usually assume that you and your staff know how to do your jobs, but they also need to know you care about them, while doing your job. Your patient’s perception of their care is your reality. If you don’t have a good sense of what your practice is communicating it may be time to stand back and view things from the patient’s point of view.

Since many practices today are large and run by CEO’s and practice managers there is a temptation to turn everything over to them in the running of your office. However, checking out in that regard can create some problems and leave the physician without a good understanding of what’s going on. It’s the physician’s name on the door, not the managers. Creating a positive corporate environment starts at the top and that means with the physician.

If you want your practice to make a good impression on your patients try some the following tips:

Develop a well defined mission statement and make it a priority in delivering care. Be sure that a patient-centric philosophy carries through in everything you and your staff members do. In order to develop that philosophy you need to ask the patients what matters to them. After all, no one would have a job, including the physician, if it weren’t for the patients.

Train new and existing staff in the courtesies you want them to observe. Never assume that staff members know what that means. Small kindnesses make powerful impressions, but so do small rudenesses. That small rudeness from a staff member may be enough to cause a patient to leave your practice. Studies show patients will even forgive a bad outcome, if they feel you care about them and are listening. So, patient perceived physician empathy, communication and relationships count for a lot.

Respect and trust your staff. Approaching your staff with intimidation and negativity creates a toxic environment and one that your patients will surely pick up on. Be attentive to how often staff members leave your employment. If you have a revolving door of people coming and going frequently, you have a problem. Replacing staff members regularly is also, very costly. In a study done by the Society of Human Resource Management they reported that it can cost a company up to six to nine months of an employees salary to replace them.

Many staff members today, complain that they don’t think their physicians even know everyone’s name who works for them…a sad commentary. If you bumped into some of your staff in the grocery store could you greet them by name? Interact with your staff and be sure to thank them regularly for what they do for you. And the thank you needs to come from the physicians…don’t staff that out. The staff can be some of your best P.R. agents.

Have a well defined dress code. Your patients are paying attention to how people look in your office. Everyone in the same uniform can make a great impression and create a sense of solidarity within the staff. Insist on good grooming from top to bottom. Tidy hair, clean shoes and pressed scrubs are a must. And gum chewing? As tempted as some might be, it is a solitary activity and should not be done in public.

Avoid the “cattle call” when calling patients back to an exam room. Encourage staff members to walk out into the waiting area to call patients back instead of standing at the door shouting their name. When patients check in, consider making a notation on a sticky note that can be put on the chart to identify the patients waiting. In doing that the person rooming patients can walk right up to them to take them back. (For instance, noting the color of an article of clothing.)

Do keep patients apprised of waiting time and apologize if you’ve kept them waiting. That apology let’s them know you value and respect their time too. Patients should be checked on every 15 minutes while waiting in the exam rooms and kept informed of the physician’s timing.

Be professional in greeting your patients. Address them formally until invited to do otherwise. Age and rank have their privileges. Also, avoid using patronizing terms such as,”honey” or “dear” when addressing patients…it’s insulting.

Smile and introduce yourself to your patients and make sure staff members do the same, even if you wear name badges. And using please and thank you often and you’re welcome or my pleasure, instead of “no problem” is always in style.

Maintain a pleasant atmosphere in your office, but avoid a party atmosphere. Patients coming in for serious issues need to feel that you are taking them seriously and are ready to do what is needed to address those issues.

Never let your patients hear you or staff complain about work, co-workers or other patients. Be aware of how loud you talk and what can be overheard from out in the hall or other areas where patients may be within ear shot.

Reach out and touch your patients with a warm greeting and handshake before you start your exam and log into your computer. Your patients should never leave your office without someone physically greeting them.

Try making a little small talk at the beginning of the patient’s visit. This helps establish a relationship with your patients and can help relax them if they are nervous.

Displaying a sense of confidence with your patients is important, but be careful that your confidence doesn’t come off as arrogance. Arrogance is off putting and does not endear people to you.

Sit down when speaking with your patients and make good eye contact. If eye contact is a problem while you are working on the computer, look at your patient when asking a question and look at the computer when entering the data. It’s an important balancing act.

Watch your body language while with your patients. If you have one hand on the door knob and one foot out the door before your patients finish talking, you are sending the message that you don’t have time for them. Always, close your conversation by asking if they have any other questions or by letting them know that the nurse will be in to finish up, before you walk out of the room. We call that, “taking your leave.”

Send a thank you note to new patients for choosing your practice and to referring physicians. Those seemingly small courtesies, have a big impact and distinguish you and your practice. Remember, patients and referring physicians have a lot of choices today in such a competitive market.

If you are in a practice with long standing patients and a patient dies, have a system in place to acknowledge the death with a note to the family members. It can come from the physician or one of your staff members. Keep in mind, as a physician, you are often part of some of the most important and intimate events in a person’s life. Some of those events are happy, like when a baby is born, but some of the events are sad, like when a patient dies. Not acknowledging a death can leave the impression that you and your staff don’t care. And it has even caused patients to leave practices.

As you step back and evaluate the pulse of your practice be mindful of some of the small things that can make big differences in how your patients perceive the care you and your staff deliver.

Remember what Maya Angelou said…

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Filed Under: medical manners Tagged With: etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, medical manners, medical manners expert, medical office etiquette, medical office practice, patient kindness, physician courtesy, Professional Courtesy

Cell Phone Ring Tones

November 2, 2015 by procourtesy

Ring tone

We’ve all been there…we are in a quiet place like church or a meeting when our cell phone rings. You thought you had silenced it, but obviously you missed that step before going into the meeting. And it causes embarrassment for all of us. The best thing to do in that situation is apologize, if that is an option, or quickly silence or turn off your phone. But,something else to consider is the ring tone you have chosen and the notification sounds that alert you to a new message or text. Some of your choices can draw more attention to your phone going off than others, and be annoying to those around you.

Recently, I was getting a manicure and the manicurist’s phone kept “sneezing.” I asked what the sound was and she informed that it was her phone letting her know she had a text message. On top of the phone sneezing, she kept looking at her phone while doing my nails. To say the least, I didn’t feel like I was a priority.

Be sensitive to the sounds your phones make…those cell phone ring tones. To hear a “quack quack” sound from a nurse’s phone while caring for a sick patient or having your college fight song playing all three verses, for your ring tone will draw more attention to your phone going off anywhere, but especially in inappropriate places.
And for sure, it doesn’t sound professional.Take the time to think through your choices and where they will be heard.

Filed Under: Cell phone etiquette Tagged With: cell phone etiquette, cell phone ring tones, Cell phone rings, etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, Professional Courtesy, text message notification

House Guest Etiquette

May 18, 2015 by procourtesy

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Summer is upon us and it’s a time that many of us travel to see relatives or are invited to be guests at friend’s vacation homes. Having house guests can be a fun and wonderful experience. However, there are those guests who try the hosts’ patience and leave them feeling as if they never want them to come back. If those guests happen to be family members, a return visit is likely and something the host will not look forward to.

So, if you happen to be a guest, even a family guest, here are some guidelines that will help you be a considerate and perfect house guest:

*Arrive on the appointed date. Don’t arrive earlier or stay later than the dates agreed upon. And don’t bring any extra people with you.

*Bring a small hostess gift. A gift of food, wine or something that can be used during your stay or be saved after you have gone is considerate. If your stay is lengthy, offer to take your hosts out to dinner at some point during your visit.

*Be prepared to leave your pets at home. Asking to bring pets can cause a lot of confusion and extra stress for the host. If they do insist and say it’s okay, then feel free to bring Fido along.

*Don’t expect to be waited on. Your hosts are not your servants and you should be prepared to help out by making your bed daily, keeping your clothes and personal items together and out of the way and leaving the bathroom picked up.

*Do offer to help in the kitchen with food prep and cleaning up. Your host may decline your offer, but your willingness to help will not go unnoticed.

*Ask about the schedule of events during your stay. If there are outings or sporting events planned be sure to be prepared with the expected attire so you will be appropriately dressed.

*Allow for some down time. Don’t expect to be entertained every minute of every day by your host. Finding time to do some things on your own can be a welcome respite for your host.

*Follow the house rules. If the host retires at a certain time, consider retreating to your room instead of staying up all night watching TV. And don’t expect to sleep until noon when the rest of the house is up early and ready to go for the day.

*Bring a robe. You may have to share a bathroom that is down the hall. And if acceptable, you may want to wear one at breakfast. However, if everyone else is dressed at the table, I recommend dressing for breakfast.

*Don’t make unreasonable dietary demands. If you have special dietary needs, be prepared to bring some of your own food or pick another time to visit.

*Be prepared to strip your bed and gather dirty towels the day you leave. Some hosts may not want you to bother, but offering is appreciated.

*Do send a handwritten thank you note after your visit.

Filed Under: House Guest Etiquette Tagged With: etiquette expert, House guest etiquette, Karen Hickman, perfect house guest, Professional Courtesy, visiting relatives

Visiting New Mothers and Baby Etiquette

May 5, 2015 by procourtesy

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Visiting New Mothers and Baby Etiquette

With the recent birth of the new Princess Charlotte Elizabeth Diana, the world is focused on babies… and rightfully so. But it’s also a time to brush up on visiting new mothers and baby etiquette.

Who can resist a baby? They make us smile and seem to bring a sense of hope for the future and they complete the circle of life within a family. I can still remember what a special time it was when my own daughter was born, nearly forty years ago. And that sense of hope and joy for me, was repeated when my granddaughter was born. But with new babies come a lot of changes in a family’s life. If it is the first child, life as you knew it, before the birth, will never be the same. However, the trade off is worth it.

As a former nurse and at the time I delivered my daughter I have seen the once rigid rules for visitation in the labor and delivery room and postpartum, greatly relaxed. Father’s weren’t even allowed in the delivery room when I first started in nursing. And no one was allowed on the floor to visit mothers if the babies were out of the nursery with the mothers.

In some ways those changes are good… fathers are now active participants in the whole birthing process. And many grandparents are present as well as siblings. Videos of the birth are made of the process that was once veiled in secrecy. These videos are now available for the world to see. However, the down side is, seemingly anyone, whether you want them or not, can pop in while you are busy working to deliver that baby or appear shortly after the birth with half the neighborhood in tow.

Mothers are kept such a short time in the hospital these days that it may be better to make a visit to see that new baby after everyone is home and settled for a few days. New babies require a lot of work and sometimes parents feel like they will never get back into a normal routine again. In short, parents are tired. And entertaining is not at the top of their list.

So, before you make the visit to see that new bundle of joy consider a few things first…

Call and see when would be a good time to make a visit. Don’t show up unannounced, make sure your visit is brief, you don’t come empty handed or expect to be waited on or entertained.

Make sure you are well and everyone with you is well before visiting. When you arrive, don’t pick up the baby unless you have been invited to do so and be sure to wash your hands first, if you have been invited to hold the baby.

Don’t offer your advice to the mother on how things should be done. Especially, if it has been a long time since you have delivered a baby. You’d be surprised how things have changed. And if the mother does ask for advice, be careful not to offer too much. That’s what the Pediatricians are for.

Don’t try to one up the mother’s labor and delivery experience with details of your own. Everyone’s experience is different and most people don’t want to hear the details of your delivery or share the details of theirs, anyway. That’s called too much information!

Don’t criticize the name regardless, of what it is. Be gracious with your response to it. Naming your children is a very personal decision. And the name parents choose is usually one they love. So, to make curt remarks or disapproving facial expressions is an insult to the parents.

Do be respectful if the mother is breast feeding. Ask if she would like you to leave the room if it is feeding time. Also, in spite of the fact that women are more relaxed these days with breast feeding in front of others, it is important for the mother to consider whether the visitors are comfortable being present for the feeding. Always ask if anyone minds if you feed the baby in front of them.

Do remember the big brother and sister with a small gift when gifting the new baby. Many siblings have a hard time adjusting to the new competition in their lives. And do make a fuss over them, too.

Your baby doesn’t have to be a royal to be special. All babies are special.

Filed Under: New Baby Etiquette, Royal baby Tagged With: etiquette expert, It's a girl, Karen Hickman, New royal princess, Prince George, Princess Charlotte, Professional Courtesy, visiting baby etiquette, visiting new mother and baby etiquette

Teacher Appreciation Week

May 4, 2015 by procourtesy

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Teacher Appreciation Week
May 4th thru May 8th marks National Teacher Appreciation Week. A time for us to pause and be grateful for the hard work teachers do every day to educate our youngsters.
All of us can probably remember remarkable teachers in our lives. Those teachers who made a huge impact on us in one way or another. Some of what they did was something small, but it stuck with us and made us better people.

Many teachers will never know how they effected a student’s life, but that doesn’t mean they haven’t made a difference for many. I think it’s like that for many of the good things we do for others. We are never sure what the end result of our actions will be, but hopefully, we take comfort in the fact that we tried to make a difference.

Teaching these days seems to be harder than ever, for many reasons. One reason is the lack of support and respect from parents. And that lack of respect and support from parents trickles down to the children…a very sad commentary from my perspective since I have many teachers in my family. My daughter and son-in-law are teachers, along with, a niece and two nephews. I see first hand how hard their jobs are and how devoted to kids they are.

When I was a child in school, my parents insisted that we be respectful of all of our teachers. I am sure that my parents didn’t agree with everything that was done, but they never voiced that to us. They too, were very respectful of our teachers. So, today, when I see parents ranting and raving on social media about their kid’s teachers or openly criticizing them in front of their children I become sad.
Just think of the message this sends to the children.

So this week, take time to pause and honor your children’s teachers. They deserve it and they need it. Some ways to do that are:

Let your children’s teachers know you appreciate them and support them with an email or a note
Send them a small token gift like a gift card for a coffee at their favorite coffee place.
Take them lunch.
Praise them to your children.
Have your children make a thank you card for them.
Support their decisions.
Never, never, criticize them in front of your children.

So let’s hear it for the teachers, this week and every other week too.

Filed Under: Teacher Appreciation Week Tagged With: etiquette expert, honor teachers, Karen Hickman, National teacher Appreciation Week, Professional Courtesy, respecting teachers, Teacher appreciation week, teacher etiquette

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