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Personal Compliments at Work

April 18, 2015 by procourtesy

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The recent appearance of “No Cat Calling Zone” signs that have popped up on New York City streets is raising the question about remarking on people’s appearance, especially men to women.The signs are an attempt to draw attention to how that cat calling makes women and men, too, feel. Many feel objectified by those rude comments and some even feel physically threatened.

I think this also opens up another discussion…is it ever okay to offer a personal compliment to a co-worker?

To work in an environment where no one compliments anyone could be a pretty sterile environment. But I do think it is important to be careful about whom you compliment and how you do it. The tone and content of the compliment make all the difference in how it is perceived. Some compliments are loaded with innuendo.

The relationship of the person giving the compliment to the person receiving the compliment is important, as well. A superior complimenting a subordinate on what they are wearing or how they look could be interpreted as harassment or an attempt to diminish the personal authority of the subordinate. Especially, if it is a male superior making the comment to a female subordinate.

However, co-workers who know each other well and have a healthy work relationship probably wouldn’t be damaged or feel threatened by hearing that someone likes their jacket. Regardless of whether the compliment came from a man or a woman.

The compliments and remarks to avoid and that can cause a big ripple at work are the ones that can sound sexist. For instance, the suggestion that someone looks “hot” in something or anything pointed about body parts should be avoided at all costs. What one would say to compliment a date, probably shouldn’t be said to someone at work.

While I don’t think it’s okay for people to make comments just because a woman or man, for that matter, is wearing something sexy. I do think that woman should be cautious about wearing clothes that are too tight, too short, or too low in the work place.

Research tells us that women are judged more severely by what they wear than men, not fair, but it is true. So, that is another reason, women in particular, should be judicious about what they wear to work. Even if no one says anything out loud, sexy clothes at work are distracting for everyone.

So, should you offer a compliment to someone at work on their appearance? It isn’t a black or white answer, but when in doubt, don’t say it out loud. Consider complimenting the person on their work performance and their professional abilities instead.

Filed Under: business etiquette, public courtesy Tagged With: business etiquette, Cat calling, etiquette expert, HR issues, Karen Hickman, No Cat calling Signs, Professional Courtesy, Work compliments, work harassment

Medical Manners: Respecting Patient’s Waiting Time

March 26, 2015 by procourtesy

People Waiting For Doctor In Hospital Lobby

Patients who have to wait for long periods of time are usually not very happy with their physician’s office and it can set a bad tone for the overall visit. Couple that wait with no one keeping them apprised of how much longer it will be before the doctor gets to them, and you have a formula for a bad experience. Patients need to know you are respecting their waiting

However, there are some ways to lessen the stress and show that you are considerate of your patient’s time.

When patients arrive, let them know up front, how far behind the physician is. Just knowing what to expect can mitigate some of the bad feelings. Some offices even post the wait time on a board so patients can easily keep track of their doctor’s progress.

Leave the patient in the waiting area as long as possible. If you room them too far ahead of when they will be seen, there is a greater chance of forgetting about them. Sitting in an exam room in a paper gown and not hearing a word from anyone about the status of the physician shows disrespect of a patient’s time. If they stay in the waiting area the front office staff can keep them apprised of the wait time easily. And it is usually a more comfortable area with reading material and even TV, if they are inclined to watch. If you do take them to the room make sure that someone is checking on them at regular intervals keeping them apprised of the physician’s status.

For extended wait times, be sure to offer to reschedule with a sincere apology offering a time day that is less likely to have a long wait.

If your patients regularly wait for long periods of time it may be time to evaluate your scheduling protocols.

Filed Under: medical manners Tagged With: etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, medical manners, patient wait time, physician offices, Professional Courtesy, respecting patients

Take a Seat in Your Waiting Room

March 2, 2015 by procourtesy

Busy Medical Receptionist
If you work in a medical office and have never sat out in your waiting room during office hours, I highly recommend it. You might be surprised by what you hear coming out of your front office. Or try sitting quietly in one of your patient rooms and note what you hear discussed in the hall outside the door.

At a time when patient privacy is such a big issue, I am often surprised at what I hear coming out of the front office or waiting in the exam room of some medical practices.

There are certain things patients and their families should never hear while visiting your office.

They should never hear your staff complain about co workers or other patients. If you can’t work on anything else in your practice, work on courtesy among staff members. Patients do notice if there is a lot of grumbling going on or passing the buck or laying blame. It leaves a very bad impression on patients and suggests that your work environment is not a very happy place.

Monitor voice tone and volume when talking on the telephone, scheduling patients or taking info at the front desk. Patients should not be privy to sensitive information regarding other patients. Regular reminders to staff may be necessary.

Be careful what is discussed in the halls outside patient rooms or even what is said in the rooms, if your walls are not very thick. Consider talk zones where you know other patients will not be hearing what you are discussing with your staff regarding other patients.

Remember, a patient’s perception of your practice may be different from what you think of how deliver care.

Filed Under: medical manners Tagged With: etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, medical manners, patient's perception, physician's office etiquette, Professional Courtesy

How to Become Your Own Healthcare Advocate

February 19, 2015 by procourtesy

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There are a lot of frustrated and unhappy people out there when it comes to their perception of healthcare today. The contemporary practice of medicine is changing, rapidly, and those changes have been a challenge for patients and physicians alike. The list of reasons for this is lengthy. Certainly physicians and hospitals are finding it difficult at times,to meet all the changes and demands put on them, by insurance companies and the government. And there is a loss of autonomy that a physician used to feel in his or her own practice. Many physicians and their practices are owned by hospitals or other business entities which makes physicians worker bees, of sorts.

However, just because things are changing and medical groups are getting larger doesn’t mean a patient can’t have a meaningful and effective relationship with his or her physician and get excellent medical care. It does mean, though, a patient may have to shift his or her thinking and adjust their approach when it comes to their own health. Patients who take more responsibility for their health and learn to work the system and their physician’s practice effectively, can reduce the frustration and miscommunication that is a common complaint today.

Some tips to help navigate a modern medical system with more effectiveness are:

*Be proactive about your health before you get sick, if possible.

*Know the routine of your physician’s office.

*Try to see the same physician at every appointment for continuity and to establish a relationship.

*Learn the names of the medical staff you deal with, in person and on the phone.

*Learn the best times to place a call to the office. Avoid Monday mornings at 9 a.m., before lunch and minutes before the office closes.

*Plan ahead for prescription refills. Don’t wait until you only have one day’s worth of medicine left or until the weekend to try and get your medications refilled. Most physicians will not refill narcotics over the phone, especially the physician on call who doesn’t know the patient.

*Learn how to navigate the telephone system. Ask for the extension number of the nurse and how to get a “live” person.

*Understand the protocol for emergencies. Do you go directly to the hospital? If so, which one. Or do you go to an urgent care facility or to your physician’s office, if it is during office hours.

*Find out what hospital your physician goes to. Many large medical groups split the hospitals for efficiency. Your physician may not make rounds or have privileges in your preferred hospital.

*Be sure you get the name of the people providing your care. If the staff or physician does not introduce themselves, ask for their name and position at the start of your visit. Be sure to introduce yourself, how you’d like to be addressed and any family members with you.

*Turn off your cellphone! Taking calls during your appointment is rude and disruptive. Many physician offices today have no-cellphone signs in their waiting areas and exam rooms.

*Find out how your physician handles test results. Some offices call patients with test results only if there is a problem. If in doubt, or if you are anxious about test results, call. If you are tech savvy, your electronic medical records can be accessed without even picking up the phone.

*Call ahead and see if your physician is running way behind, if timely appointments are a concern. Ask again when you arrive and check periodically during your wait if it is getting lengthy. If you can no longer wait, reschedule, but let the front desk know this has been an inconvenience for you. Your time is valuable too.

*Be familiar with the patient privacy guidelines and be sure to document the family members who are privy to your medical information.

*Consider taking a family member or trusted friend to your appointments. If you are elderly or have serious medical issues, another person can act as an advocate and help prevent errors in information transmission.

*When making an appointment, find out if it is essential to arrive 15 minutes ahead of your appointment time to fill out paperwork.

*Courtesy is important on all sides. Make sure you are considerate. If you encounter rudeness from a staff member or physician, respond kindly. This can often defuse the behavior. We all have a bad day, but if it is one individual, and the behavior is persistent, let the physician or management know. They can’t fix a problem if they don’t know about it.

*Change practices if the personalities and attitudes of a particular office are something you can’t live with. Be sure to let the office know why you are leaving. Health care is very competitive today, and there are many other groups waiting for your business.

*Document serious glitches. For instance, if you call multiple times and no one returns your calls, let management know. Waiting for long periods of time without a response can hold up treatment and/or progress.

*The Dr. Welbys, who used to make house calls and who seemed to have all the time in the world to spend with their patients, may be passe, but there are many fine caregivers who have replaced them. On the surface, their style, accompanied by advanced technology, may make things seem very different, but the ultimate goal of most physicians is to care for people and make them better. Be sure you are doing your part in this process. And remember, change is not always a bad thing. Without it, there wouldn’t be many of the good things that modern medicine has provided.

However, courtesy and good manners are never out of style and are always important. Letting your physicians know they could ramp up the courtesy and professionalism in their practice may help them and your relationship with them.

Filed Under: medical manners Tagged With: etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, mannerly patients, medical manners, Professional Courtesy, your own healthcare advocate

Holiday Gifting for Your Medical Staff

December 18, 2014 by procourtesy

medical doctor holding gifts in hands isolated on white

A Medical Manners Moment…

Holiday Gifting for Your Medical Staff

I am always disappointed when I hear health care workers in larger medical groups say that they don’t think their physicians even know their names. A sad commentary I think, since a physician’s staff has a lot to do with the over all patient experience. Also, it has been shown that the feeling of being valued in a job is very important to all of us. So, if health care workers feel they are invisible to their physicians they are certainly not feeling valued.

Since this is the holiday season, now, is the perfect time for physicians and administrative people to show their appreciation to their staff members.

Here are some ideas on how to do that:

Attend the office Christmas party. If you are the boss and you don’t attend the practice party, the message you are giving is one of indifference or that you don’t care about your staff.

Gift your staff. Offering a monetary bonus if it is in your budget, or a thoughtful gift, is always appreciated at the holiday time. Focus on the word thoughtful.

Acknowledge everyone. Get to know all the staff people, from the scheduler to the people in your billing department by name. There all no small jobs in any organization.

Feed your staff. If the size of your staff is small enough, take them out for lunch occasionally. If it is too large for that, order in.

Remember your staff all year long. You don’t have to wait until the holidays to show your appreciation. Consider doing something nice for your staff throughout the year. For instance, acknowledging birthdays is another way to make them feel special.

Filed Under: medical etiquette, medical manners, Uncategorized Tagged With: etiquette expert, gifting medical staff, holiday gifting, Karen Hickman, medical manners, physician appreciation, Professional Courtesy

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