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Perfume Etiquette

December 12, 2014 by procourtesy

Perfume on pink background
Perfume Etiquette
So, you love your perfume and enjoy wearing it. However, any fragrance, such as cologne, perfume and aftershave should be used sparingly in any situation, but especially at work. People should have to get fairly close to you before smelling your special potion or signature scent. You would never want your fragrance to precede you into a room or hang in the air like old cooking smells, after you have gone. Your scent should attract people, not irritate or repel them.
Many people are hypersensitive to perfume or even allergic to it. It can cause migraines, nausea and a general unwell feeling for some who are exposed to it for long periods of time. If you work with someone and have to share a fairly small space and their scent is causing you discomfort, it may be time to tell the offending person. Telling a person politely that his or her fragrance is causing you to feel sick may be all that is needed. However, if the individual doesn’t respect your request to lighten up, you may need to take the issue to your supervisor or HR person so he or she can intervene. Today, the continued exposure to an unwelcome scent can be equated to having to endure secondhand cigarette smoke in the workplace, and some companies are being taken to task on the issue.
So here are some guidelines to keep in mind before you splash on your favorite scent:
•Consider the two-foot rule — people should not be able to smell your fragrance until they get fairly close to you.
•Choose lighter scents during the day and in summer months. Leave the heavier and exotic scents for nighttime and winter.
•Avoid wearing perfume in hospital settings (this applies to visitors, too) and on planes.
•Use lightly scented body lotions instead of perfume when you know you will be in close quarters with others.
•Don’t mix your fragrances.
•Don’t reapply a fragrance in public, and be mindful that the person wearing the perfume stops smelling it long before others do. Ask someone if he or she can still smell your fragrance before putting on more.
•If more than one person tells you your perfume is strong, believe them. Less is more!

For distinction, find a scent that everyone else isn’t wearing and make it your signature. And remember to put your perfume on before your clothes and your pearls. Perfume can be damaging to pearls and you don’t want your clothes to be permeated with your perfume.

Filed Under: business etiquette Tagged With: business etiquette, etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, perfume etiquette, Professional Courtesy, work etiquette

Holiday Gift Giving at Work

December 10, 2014 by procourtesy

medical doctor holding gifts in hands isolated on white

Holiday Gift Giving at Work…
Gift giving at work can be tricky, so it is important to find out whether there is a gift-giving policy. The larger the company, the more likely it is that there will be a specific written guideline.
If the gift-giving policy is not a rigid one, find out what the tradition has been and try to follow it. Making the wrong move can cause hurt feelings and cause problems in the future.
Here are some other guidelines for gifting at work:
•Find out what people usually spend on gifts and stay within that price range. Spending more than others can make you look like you are trying to show people up or that you are not a team player.
•Do participate in the joint gift for your boss or supervisor. Giving a separate gift can make you look like a brown-noser.
•Choose gifts that reflect the interests of the people you are gifting. This is a time to show appreciation and to let recipients know you have put some thought into their gift.
•Stay within your budget when buying gifts. It isn’t about the cost, it’s about the thought. Be resourceful and clever when shopping. And be sure to wrap your gifts — that wrapping can make a usual gift look special.
•Avoid joke gifts; everyone doesn’t have the same sense of humor. Stay away from inappropriate gifts or gifts that are too extravagant, personal or sexy.
•Be a good sport and keep your sense of humor and play by the rules if your co-workers participate in the Yankee Swap (white elephant) or Secret Santa games.
•Give gifts privately to co-workers if you don’t have something for everyone.

Happy Holidays!

Filed Under: Office Gift Giving Tagged With: business etiquette, etiquette expert, holiday etiquette, Karen Hickman, Offic gift giving, Professional Courtesy

Office Christmas Party

December 4, 2014 by procourtesy

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Office Christmas Party…how to attend with style.
Corporate holiday parties can be stressful and unappealing for some people in an organization. However, you may be committing a huge faux pas and sabotaging your chances for advancement by not attending. Attending shows you are a team player. It is the opportunity to get to know those you don’t know well or have time to chat with during your regular business hours. And it is a chance to meet some of the spouses and significant others in your co-workers’ lives.

It is a bad idea for an employee not to participate, but an even larger mistake for a boss not to show up, without a very good reason. Not attending sends the message that bosses don’t really care about their employees and that they set themselves above those who work for them — a huge insult in my book. And if that is the message that the employees take away from their absence, it can damage the employees’ perception of how much they feel they are valued and how hard they want to work for the company. Corporate cultures and attitudes start at the top.

So, here are some tips to get you through the party and make it more enjoyable for everyone.

  • Be sure to respond to the invitation and let the planners know whether you are bringing your spouse or a guest, only if they are included in the invitation.
  • Dress for the event. This may be the time to jazz it up a bit with your attire, but be careful not to get too sexy.  That plunging neckline may not be forgotten on Monday morning. Ditch your jeans…dressing appropriately shows you care.
  • If you bring your spouse or a guest, be sure to introduce him or her to your coworkers.
  • Mingle! This is a perfect time to meet others in the company you don’t usually have the opportunity to see.
  • If you are one of the bosses, circulate and don’t just hang with the other bosses.
  • Pace yourself when it comes to alcohol consumption. You don’t want to be the topic of conversation on Monday morning.
  • If a meal is involved and you are ordering off a menu, go middle of the road with price. Ordering the most expensive thing on the menu can look as if you are taking advantage.
  • Thank your hosts upon leaving and send a handwritten thank-you note the next day.

So when that invitation arrives for the company party, say yes to going. Happy holidays!

Filed Under: Office Holiday Party Tagged With: business etiquette, dining etiquette, etiquette expert, holiday etiquette, Karen Hickman, office xmas party, Professional Courtesy, professional dress

Real Thanksgiving Etiquette

November 26, 2014 by procourtesy

Happy Thanksgiving table place setting

Real Thanksgiving Etiquette…the Reason for the Holiday

As we all gather together with our families this Thanksgiving, be mindful of the important things that bring us together and sustain us throughout the year.

While it is important to be well-mannered and know how to navigate the silverware on the table, there are larger things behind all of the rules. Consider focusing on those things this Thanksgiving.

  • Be respectful of the generations in your family.

  • Be considerate of your host.

  • Be willing to help and share.

  • Be present and a participant in conversation at the table.

  • Be willing to “disconnect” from your technology.

  • Be kind.

  • And most of all, Be Thankful!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Blessing to you all. Safe travels.

Filed Under: dining etiquette, Uncategorized Tagged With: dining etiquette, etiquette expert, family, holiday etiquette, Karen Hickman, Professional Courtesy, Thanksgiving, Thanksgiving etiquette

Ballet Etiquette, Part II

November 3, 2014 by procourtesy

ballet classes part 2
Ballet Etiquette, Part II
Thanks again to Lucia Rogers for contributing to my blog. As you will see in reading, she is passionate about dance and gives us some insight into how dance and the arts can enrich our lives. Here is some etiquette on attending a performance.

Attending a Ballet…
There is nothing like seeing a live performance; there is something very special about being there in the moment with the artists on the stage. It is live; no stop, rewind or redo….it is about being in the moment and hopefully being swept off your feet or taken to a different place while the dancers perform. I have seen my fair share of live performances but I’ll be honest in saying that I have spent far more time performing on stages rather than sitting in those plush seats!
We are heading into the holiday season and for many, a holiday tradition, is attending The Nutcracker. There are many versions that will grace stages all around the country as well as many other ballet classics and new works after the holidays. So here are a few tips to attending a dance performance and getting swept away…

Dress appropriately: Just like with any event the venue and subject will help you decide on what is appropriate to wear. A lot of companies are staying true to the traditional venue with classic ballets; however, many are incorporating a bit more casual series to their seasons. This is, in part, to hopefully expand who they reach by using more non-traditional settings and more contemporary repertoire. This has opened the doors to those who might not have attended in the past.
Be in the know: Dance usually does not have a dialogue so knowing what is going on beforehand will help in your understanding of the subject. Some ballets and works have a story and others are open to interpretations so the playbills usually have a wealth of information not only about the performance you are about to see, but also the dancers and their credentials. Some attendees also take this a little further and may do some research on the web about the dancers, music, company and/or performance before they attend. So allowing yourself plenty of time to arrive, mingle and get organized is encouraged. Doing this after the lights go down can often be a distraction to the artists as well as those around you. We would also hate for you to miss a special moment!
Appreciate the artists/choreographers: Artists-dancers, musicians and more have dedicated endless hours of work and this is their life and passion. There are always exceptions but as artists they don’t often go into this for the money, so showing your appreciation for their art is just one way of saying “thank you.” Applause for the conductor, dancers, choreographer, etc. are always welcomed at appropriate moments. Often times this is done for impressive technical movements and after pieces or sections. Dancers show their appreciation of the audience and their applause by a bow or curtsey, but there is nothing worse than to leave a stage as a dancer and the applause quickly fades or is gone. However, that is also something dancers have to be aware of so as to not take their sweet time after their dancing and ask too much of those watching.
Respect: All basic rules apply with respect. Respect to the venue and employees, respect to other attendees, and respect for the artists and the work that they do. With technology continually advancing the opportunity to record and take pictures can be done with such ease. This is great for our everyday life and experiences but for these live performances patrons are often asked to turn all electronic equipment off. This is not only to prevent any disruptions but also to prevent any pictures or videos being acquired illegally by an audience member due to copyright/trust/union agreements. This is becoming more and more of a problem so audience members respecting this request is very much appreciated. Many companies are selling or offer other options for those interested in photos or videos to remember the performance or dancers. It never hurts to see what might be available with your favorite company or artist!
The world of the arts and dance is so rich in history and has so many wonderful benefits; attending a live performance can be an enriching experience! As an artist I love nothing more than to share a piece of myself and become the role or character as it is an honor to perform for those who attend. The appreciation is more than you even know….My hope (as well as many other artists) is that you feel something or that you are taken along for a wonderful little journey in that hour or so. It is a very vulnerable yet exhilarating state that we put ourselves in, but I couldn’t imagine it any other way as true artistry and honesty comes from this. So check out the dance world; there are so many exciting things going on and continually evolving. There is something for almost every palate, so everyone should be able to find a performance they will enjoy!

Filed Under: etiquette, social skills Tagged With: attending a ballet etiquette, ballet etiquette, etiquette expert, Karen Hickman, Lucia Rogers, Professional Courtesy, Social etiquette, theater etiquette

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